prejudged by MHT, DHB / Developing vunerability and creating space to talk about stuff is way forward.

I was saddened today to hear of a friend who's been misjudged by the people around her who are meant to be helping her towards recovery.

This friend of mine has been refused counselling, and DBT therapy no good reason has been told that she is too well for this.

My friend to all outwardly looking her way, appears to be well put together, insightful and bright. You would not think she was suffering inside with mental illness. That every day was a struggle for her to pull herself together and keep on going in the journey of life.

But this is the truth!

I know too that my friends case is not isolated, in fact there are many who are prejudged by mental health services as being capable of helping themselves on their own, or too well to receive treatment.

What gives these services the right to judge individuals ?
Are they in these ones shoes?

If someone says that they are struggling majorly and need help then why cant they just be believed and accepted as needing assistance. Isn't that what the mental health services and the DHB is there for to help people. Not to judge them as whether they are worthy or not for treatment.

Im so sick of the judgements.

So many people are alone in their journey, not because they choose to be alone, but because mental health services only go so far and according to the criteria or paperwork they are holding this individual does not meet the mark.

So instead of getting better, these people can become so depressed, and suicidal as result of their circumstances and not being listened to, and helped effectively.

Is that the sort of result the DHB are after?


I know what its like to wear a mask everyday. Have done so to save face, and appear normal like everyone else. But sooner or later you become tired of faking it everyday.

Putting on a brave face just so people around you can feel settled within their conscience.

Well not any more. Vunerability, and creating a space to talk about stuff is the way forward!

I don't care if I have a bad week or a bad day, I'm gonna be honest.  We shouldn't hide these emotions away, everyone is sad at one point and its how that sadness is dealt with that really matters and being there for our friends and family and even complete strangers that we do not know from a bar of soap but need a listening ear, and maybe a hug.

Nobody's life is 100% perfect

But we can make lives better for people by just being ourselves, being open and non judgemental with our communications with them. Avoid stigmatising and putting people in a box or the too hard basket. If you view them that way don't be surprised if they view themselves with such a critical eye.

We can change things by the way we talk and act.
Its OK to TALK
Its OK to LISTEN

Being REAL with thoughts and emotions, words, and speech., actions, thats what lets people out there know its ok to share how they feel,  and they are not alone in their pain.

This in turn encourages others still to reach out , or share their story.  Creating a pay it forward type mechanism for change for the better.

ITS OK TO NOT BE OKAY!  WE DONT HAVE TO PLASTER A FAKE SMILE. WE CAN BE REAL, VUNERABLE, AND SHARE WHAT WE FEEL.